Our Legendary Venetian Holiday

Some years ago, in a distant, halcyon past redolent of youthful vigor and young love, I packed my bags and boarded a plane bound for Venice. For me, La Serenissima wasn’t just a vacation destination. It was where I would see my wife for the first time in six months, and where we would spend an enchanted week of culture, learning, and most importantly togetherness. Because while I had been in the United States, working a normal job and living in a normal suburb, she had been dodging bullets and death threats in one of the Middle East’s most unstable countries, working in decidedly un-normal conditions. When an opportunity came up for her to get away for a short vacation, we decided to meet in the middle; and after considering a number of worthy candidates—Paris, Vienna, Rome—we settled on as tranquil an environment as we could find, to form the greatest possible contrast with her quotidian reality. The Most Serene City fit the bill perfectly.

And so we did—I arrived at the airport in Venice just hours before she did, met her at arrivals with an enormous smile and commensurate hug, and swept her off to the apartment that I had pre-arranged for us on the Giudecca. The week was pure magic—we marveled at the art in the Doge’s palace and the Basilica di San Marco, not to mention in a dozen other palazzi all over the city; the city itself was a museum for an architecture lover like her, with the crazy conglomeration of Byzantine and Renaissance façades looking out onto the canals. We rode the vaporetti up and down the Grand Canal, under the stately stone bridges with their intricate reliefs and sordid histories; we rode them around the city’s Medieval walls, erected to defend against incursions by Germanic chieftans, Ottoman sultans, and Florentine dukes; we crossed the waters further afield to Murano, where intricate glasswork from Venetian artisans has been refracting sunlight into beautiful displays for nearly a thousand years. Dressed in our stateliest, we took in a symphony in the city’s pre-Napoleonic grand concert hall; when we weren’t being nearly so cultured we challenged ourselves to eat as many flavors of the city’s gelato as humanly possible. And all the while we were together, blissfully happy to have erased—at least temporarily—the ten time zones that had separated us for the past year.

That vacation was legendary. It has a permanent aura, a golden frame, that enshrines it as one of the Best Times of My Life. I look back on pictures, or simply recall moments in my mind, and the joy that I felt then returns to me. It has been over five years since then, and I believe that my wife and I were acting out an Italian love story without equal in all the legends and mythology of that inventive country.

What do I not remember about that trip? Unless we are specifically recalling it, I do not remember how the electricity in our apartment went out one night, leaving us stranded in darkness, without a stove to cook on and without air conditioning to make the hot Venetian summer nights bearable. I do not remember how I walked across the Giudecca to buy a pizza that night, and asked them to light a candle for me, as we had no matches and the stores were closed, and how I carefully protected that flame for my entire transit of the island, until as I stood on my doorstep a sudden gust of wind snuffed out our hopes for evening light. I also don’t remember how, with the windows open to make the hot air bearable, we both ended up bitten by a small army of mosquitos, or how all this went on for several days because we couldn’t get hold of the landlord. (For the record: someone eventually left the circuit breaker room unlocked and unattended one morning, and I stole in and restored modernity to our dwelling.) I also generally don’t remember how, the very night that we attended the symphony in our best clothing and most attractive—read: uncomfortable—shoes, the vaporetto drivers went on strike and left us with a mile-and-a-half walk home over quaint and uneven cobblestone, which was so punishing on my wife’s feet that we could walk nowhere the next day. Or how the only possible flights that we could take out of Venice at the end of the week were at five in the morning, meaning that we were waiting for the airport bus on the side of the road at two o’clock on our last night. And all this says nothing of a food “adventure” or two.

Emotional filtering and our outlook on life

What gives? Why do I not remember the painful, the less-than-perfect, parts of that vacation? At first, you might think it was because, heck, I was in Venice! But I’ve been on vacations before where things also did not go well, and I remember that they didn’t go well. But this was different: I wasn’t there to pretend I was cultured, or to hit the night life—really, I could have been not in Venice at all—but I was there to see my new wife, and it had been a long time, and that was the most important thing. And that went perfectly. I showed up. She showed up. Nothing else was really necessary.

Our brains tend to filter, and my brain filters the mild (in retrospect) inconveniences out of the overwhelming success of the trip at large. There is no need for me to dwell on the propensity of the Italians to strike, or my general distaste for mosquitoes, or any of the other failings of circumstance that were part of the entire tapestry of our vacation. A few misplaced brushstrokes do not mar the masterpiece. I believe that our brains do this sort of filtering automatically, based upon our goals with respect to the memories. Do I want to remember how painful it was to get my graduate degree? Then I remember the late nights in the lab, the difficult discussions with my thesis advisor, the feeling of uncertainty and drift that pervaded my relationship to my work. Or do I want to remember the joys of my sojourn at one of the nation’s best (and most beautiful) universities? Then I remember the blooming of the dogwoods in the spring, the large cohort of friends that I made, the delight of learning new things, and the circumstances of meeting my future wife. I choose which set of memories to dwell on. I choose whether it was a good or a bad time.

How we choose to approach our memories is an indicator of how we view our lives—if we adopt a narrative of victimization, we are sure to see persecution all around; if a narrative of misfortune, we will look back to see poor choices and an endless stream of bad circumstance. But if our life narrative is one of advancement, joy, and triumph, then that is what we will see in the flow of our memories.

Some people have more misfortune than most, and some have more triumph than most. Objective differences in our lives exist and are important. But those objective differences are usually not the things that drive our personal narratives. Some incredibly successful people are incredibly depressed, and many that our world would consider most misfortunate are some of its happiest people. I think we’ve all heard the stories of the jaded Westerner visiting a poor country and making observations of the happiness found among the poor of the place. Poverty or wealth have little to do with happiness—this much is substantiated scientifically. Instead it’s a set of conscious choices that pervade our subconscious approach to life.

Translating to now

If all of the foregoing is relevant to memories, then it is also relevant to our experience of the present. Am I happy with my life right now? The answer in large part is determined by what I fixate on. For example, I spent just enough time traveling for work in the State of New York this year that I’m required to file an income tax return there, despite having never lived there or having any connection whatsoever with the place. That’s going to suck a bunch of hours out of my life during Spring 2016 as I figure out how to fill out yet another set of forms, along with my regular state and federal tax forms. I hate paperwork.

On the other hand, I had a job that was mostly interesting, challenging, and that advanced the frontiers of science during 2015. I got to visit my grandmother’s childhood home outside of Buffalo and Niagara Falls during my weekends in New York. I even managed to swing an anniversary trip to New York City with my wife as a result of the traveling. And the company topped off my income to cover the extra expense of New York taxes.

So what am I going to focus on? The drag of filling out some extra paperwork? Or the awesomeness that surrounded and resulted from my circumstance? I choose to be positive.

And this, I believe, is the definition of gratitude: to recognize the good in life, and to give it priority over the bad. It’s not a function of the good-to-bad ratio. That can be quite small, and a person can still be grateful. It’s a function of the amount of attention given to the good compared with attention focused on the bad. While that’s not necessarily an easy mental discipline, it nevertheless is a discipline. A choice to be made.

So file the bad things in life away into a mental “to-do” folder, and deal with them expeditiously. Then celebrate the good and give it center stage. Developing gratitude for the blessings in life, despite whatever else might be there, is one of the essential components of Jailbreak. It’s the shovel with which the escape tunnel is dug.

For those in the US, happy Thanksgiving!

Jailbreak Philosophy

Today, I walked in sand.

Very fine, very dry sand is a fluid; it flows around your feet when you step in it, and runs downhill in little rivulets; the wind blows across its surface and sends up a spray, a mist of microscopic particles that caresses your bare legs and wets your clothes with a golden film of grit.  It engulfs in the collective mass of its atoms everything that stands in its path, a flash flood—though times in decades—that drowns beneath it anything too slow to get out of its way. Plants, rocks, tools, huts, houses and cities all succumb to the advance of the silica tide.

Walking on sand works where walking on water does not because the friction between the fundamental particles of the sand fluid exceeds that between water molecules. Step in the ocean, and the water parts before your foot: it displaced the water throughout the ocean, and could be measured an world away, if we but had instruments sensitive enough. But sand is not so yielding. It will accommodate your foot up to a certain point, allowing you to displace its particles; but at some point you have pushed too much, and no more sand will move before your step. The obstinacy of sand is what lets us walk on it. Its fluidity is what makes the walking hard.

In the desert, where this fine, dry sand lives, the wind whips up the its surface into an everlasting tempest. Towering sunburnt waves rise in formation, beating toward the sky in their decades-long, silent uprising against the tyranny of the wind. The dunes are everlasting, yet ever-changing. Moment by moment the wind sculpts and shapes their surfaces, adding here, subtracting there, so that the patterns written in breezy calligraphy down the slopes are never the same, whether comparing between points in space or points in time. But cease to consider the details of the patterns; stand upright, shield your eyes, and consider the sand en masse.  By looking at the dunes writ large, you are seeing statistically; andthe  statistics of the sands are constant throughout your view. The consistent distribution of rivulet widths, lengths, and branching patterns; the distributions of the dune heights and angles; the regularity of these can be seen at a glance. And so it goes—sand particles, on our scale, are identical; they form wildly different patterns when we observe their interactions up close; and their behavior becomes regular again as we pull away further. The sands are like people. We are all made from the same mould, from the same physical stuff; yet each one of us is radically different from every other one; yet societies the world over display a surprising regularity in customs and habits.

Who knows who the first people were to walk these sands? Did they survive the encounter, or did they grow weary, stop for a short rest, and then, when their rest extended too long, drown in the hot glacial deluge? Might they now form part of these sands on which I am walking?

It must have been thousands of years ago. Everything has changed since then. When the sun has gone down, I can see lights on the horizon—a city is nearby, filled with the buzz of electricity and information and civilization. The dome overhead, in which then hung only stars, now is home to airplanes and satellites whose trajectories may be followed across the ebony skies. And I can stand in this spot with no worries about what I shall eat, or what I shall drink, or if I shall ever make it to my destination. Indeed, this is my destination.

But to say all has changed is to think too small. If I ignore the city, and ignore the satellites, and look at the dunes; there, there I see what that first traveler saw. As if side by side, we see the same patterns in the sand and the shield our eyes from the same sun. In all probability my lungs contain several oxygen and nitrogen atoms that were in his lungs as he stood here, he sharing my view and I his. And there is an immutability to this; man may be about his business, changing everything in his power to change, and yet in the sand the patterns persist. Man may not change those. He may dig up the sand, and pour it out on a far  continent; but the wind will follow it there, and caress it into its eternal shapes, and it will continue to flow and engulf as it has since the beginning of time.

When the wind is blowing, my footprints disappear almost immediately as I walk away. My walk has not disturbed the sand in its massive progress. It does not care. Of whatever significance my walk is to me, the sand does not care.

Let’s remember this. Our universes revolve around ourselves because we see through our own eyes and act through our own bodies. But in realizing that our volition extends only as far as ourselves, we break the illusion that our wants and desires order the objective universe.  Even the most powerful people on Earth have no power to change the forces of nature, the combination of winds and friction that sculpt they sands. We are small, and our ambitions are small.

Our efforts are of grand import in our own lives; we have the power to shape our destinies and overcome odds. We are empowered to leave footprints in the sand, and to choose the direction in which they go. The philosophy of Jailbreak is all about thoughtfully choosing that path. If possible, we may lead others to a limited degree. But let us not have too grand an opinion of ourselves.  It is to our benefit to acknowledge that we are part of a grander scheme, and the wind will wipe away our traces when we are gone. And this is for the good; those who come after us will have the view unspoiled.

Jailbreak Philosophy

Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive. —Howard Thurman

Part of what makes achieving Jailbreak difficult—mentally—is finding the necessary imagination to envision a world different than the one that we already know.  I’m not talking about John Lennon’s Imagine-style fantasizing about a universe made in our own image.  But I am talking about the ability to imagine, at the very least, that our own lives could be different than what they are.  This must always be the starting point for anyone who, as Steve Jobs liked to say, puts a “dent in the world.”  For nobody ever put a dent in the world by plodding the same well-worn paths that they have been tracing for years.  Not even Steve Jobs, whose roller-coaster life can be described as anything but stable.  (I have, incidentally, enjoyed his biography by Walter Isaacson so much that I’ve read it twice.)

Bold: How to Go Big, Create Wealth and Impact the World
Bold: How to Go Big, Create Wealth and Impact the World

I am not one for business or management books.  I read a few earlier in my career, and I learned something from each; and I would highly recommend a number of them to anyone who enjoys business and management.  I enjoy some aspects of business, but not management.  I do, however, love mental jailbreak.  So when I heard about Peter Diamandis’ new book Bold: How to Go Big, Create Wealth and Impact the World, I figured I should give it a try.  I even paused my most recent Nobel Laureate reading to take it in.  And I am glad I did!

Bold is divided into three sections, and the first two of those sections are essential reading for those anyone who values the ability to think differently, and who is into technology.  Diamandis, after all, is a part of the Silicon Valley establishment that has been asking us all to “Think Different” for the last half-century.  But I think that the first two sections of the book will also be of great value to artists, musicians, novelists, craftsmen: anyone who needs to both be able to focus intently on accomplishing goals and to back up and set goals in a larger strategic context.  And looking at life from a large perspective—and then executing on what you see—is the essence of jailbreak.

Consider the following meta-quote (a quote of a quote), which is originally from a book called Drive by Daniel Pink:

The science shows that…typical twentieth-century carrot-and-stick motivators—things we consider somehow a “natural” part of human enterprise—can sometimes work.  But they’re effective in only a surprisingly narrow band of circumstances.  The science shows that “if-then” rewards…are not only ineffective in many situations, but can also crush the high-level, creative, conceptual abilities that are central to current and future economic and social progress.  The science shows that the secret to high performance isn’t our biological drive (our survival needs) or our reward-and-punishment drive, but our third drive—our deep-seated desire to direct our own lives, to extend and expand our abilities, and to fill our life with purpose.

Right?  Right??  Who among us has experienced the motivation that comes from getting a new job making more money than we ever have before…and then discovering that a few years down the line the money, and raises, are no longer motivating?  The vast business literature out there will attest that monetary rewards are not the best way to motivate people past a certain point.  An individual’s progress climbing Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs dictates that he will desire something more after his physiological and safety needs are met—he will desire self-actualization, the ability to direct his own life, and fill it with purpose.  Pre-jailbreak, one may not be able to see how to take control of his life; or if he can see it, may not be able to walk the path to gaining control.  Perhaps it is a mental block; perhaps it is a financial or family constraint; perhaps the cultural role he is expected to fulfill won’t allow it.  But making the most out of the short life that we all share in this world requires that we figure out what it means to direct our own lives, find and fulfill our purpose, and be the best human beings we can be.  And the quote by Howard Thurman at the beginning of this post suggests a strategy for doing it.  Find what motivates you—and then LET IT MOTIVATE YOU!*

Gartner Hype Cycle Indicators
Gartner Hype Cycle Indicators

But back to Bold.  Part I is all about exponential trends in digital technology (Moore’s Law and all the disruption to industries that it has created).  This should be very interesting to all comers, because it is ultimately about the evolution of the toolset that we all use, no matter what our field of interest.  Computers, cameras, machine shops, artificial intelligence, biology and medicine, space flight—it’s all there.  Engineers will engineer faster.  Photographers will create more spectacular shots and share their work more easily than ever.  Toy makers will find new niches that let them make a living out of their passion.  And the hype cycle—which, yes, has a lot to do with the progress of technology but is a common trajectory followed by many experiences in life—is a paen to the victory of perseverance.  One does not Jailbreak in a day.

Part II contains three sequences—two practical, one inspirational—that should be very useful to the aspiring Jailbreaker.  The first is an examination of flow, the mental state in which super-productivity or super-achievement is possible.  Think of the last time you read a book, did homework, wrote something, or had a fantastic conversation and time flew by without your realizing it.  Perhaps you had been struggling with writer’s block for days, only to find that everything came out all at once in an amazing stream of awesome.  Or you’d been colliding with a persistent problem with a co-worker or friend forever, and one conversation—suddenly and unexpectedly open, honest, and intimate—brought the complication to a close.  It turns out there are identifiable creative, social, and psychological triggers that let one get into such flow states; and through practice, one can engineer the right circumstances to enable such super-productivity predictably.  Whatever it is that you need to do achieve Jailbreak—and whatever you will do when you get there—finding flow will make it happen.

The second sequence in Part II is a discussion of credibility, and the need to be credible to make any of your plans happen.  Diamandis means this in a business or social context, but I believe that credibility is equally important in personal endeavors.  First, you need self-credibility: do you really believe that what you are trying to accomplish is possible?  If you don’t, no one else will—and it won’t be possible.  So do your homework.  Is your goal financial freedom?  Do some math and convince yourself that the numbers work.  Do you want to jump careers?  Find examples of people who have done similar things, and study their successes.  Want to hike the Pacific Crest Trail for months on end?  Best to start with some small overnight trips so you know what you’re getting into.  And the amazing thing is: once you convince yourself, you have most of what you need to make your goals seem credible to others—any others who might matter.  Spouse, friends, parents, bosses.  Bold has some specific suggestions for winning over skeptics: build a crowd of believers, starting with those close to you who are well-respected enough to lend weight to your arguments; take it slowly (again with perseverance); and think carefully about how you present the message.  I loved his use of the old story Stone Soup as an illustration.

And the third sequence is the recounting of the life stories of people like Elon Musk, Richard Branson, and others who have changed the world for the better, starting out with little more than their own force of will.  The Steve Jobs “Reality Distortion Field” is very much in evidence.

Part III is much more focused on entrepreneurs and those trying to accomplish something very large in the business or social sphere.  It isn’t so important to those who are trying to think big in the context of their own lives, as they do when Plotting for Jailbreak.  Many of the suggestions there may be obsolete in a few years’ time. But if you do read the book, be curious and flip through it; you never know what you may be inspired to find.

Jailbreak is a bold philosophy.  It is easy to accept life the way you found it, to listen to the majority, to plod step-by-step on a path that keeps you going to you-know-not-where (the “culture”).  It is equally easy, and lazy, to assume that the opinions of the majority are always wrong, that you must rebel against your upbringing, and that most people are mindless sheep (the “counterculture”).  The truth lies between these extremes, and it is not easy to find.  Those who dare to make themselves better, who balance on the narrow way between blind faith and arrogant pride, must be bold.  And if it sounds like this book could help you develop a bold mindset, it is worth a read.

*I believe that Jailbreak is never accomplished by running away from life, abandoning responsibilities, or selfish grasping.  Those who take that route to self-actualization usually find that they have hollowed out the middle of Maslow’s Hierarchy—that is, they’ve given up on love and belonging, and on self-esteem and the esteem of others.  The driven career professional reaches his pinnacle with a divorce (or two) under his belt.  Regret catches up with the father who has abandoned his children.  And our favorite Christmas villain Scrooge (and his counterparts in reality) amass enormous wealth and have not a friend to show for it.  No, this method of trying to accomplish Jailbreak is just a prison transfer—one jail to another.  True jailbreak is accomplished by showing up for life, making the right decisions, and becoming better day after day.

Book reviews Jailbreak Philosophy

Silence. So many kinds of silence. Deep, still pools of tranquility. Whispering voices of tentative zephyrs stroking millions of paper mâché leaves in autumn forests. Gentle hums of indistinct human voices murmuring prayers in a stretching cathedral. The never-ending roar of the city, ceaseless as the mountain waterfall. Silence is everywhere, if you can find it, because it’s not an imposed axiom of environment, but a transcendent construction—or rather emergence—of the mind.

Food, shelter: the basic needs of human life, the can’t-do-withouts of physical existence. Love: the sine qua non of spiritual existence. Silence: in which everything finds its value, its authenticity, its reliability.

You say, How can silence be as important as food and shelter? Well how then is rain more important than sunshine to a growing flower? It is all needed, all important; but the Scriptural wisdom of the ancient maintains that “better is a little on the rooftop than plenty in a house of strife”.

Or how can silence outweigh the importance of love? It doesn’t, any more than the sense of taste outweighs the importance of eating. The latter can be had without the former. But who truly experiences the joy of a wonderful food without tasting it? And who really knows love if he has never rested, silently, secure in the knowledge that he loves and is loved unconditionally, apart from all words and demonstrations?

Silence is not well-regarded in the social and technological milieu pulsing on our every side. In the office, emails and phone calls and stop-ins and meetings and reports shout into our every moment, demanding our attention and response; productivity, the aim of every manager, comes to be defined not by the quality of thought and product you create, but rather by how much you add to the noise. Stay quiet, and risk being ignored in the daily fracas. It’s nearly impossible to drown out, anyway. In the wild, sounds that are quiet and distant indicate something not important; the loud and immediate requires our attention. But there is no dissipation in the electronic, no attenuation of things unimportant; everything shouts equally loud in an email box. Other people’s problems in a meeting take as much of your attention as your own. Put up filters to allow yourself to think, and be rebuked because you are unresponsive.

Not that too many have that problem: the banishing of silence from our lives outside of work is big business. Apple made sure we could distract ourselves with infinite variety when it introduced the iPod; the iPhone ensured that we could distract ourselves with the infinity of the Internet when no one was available to talk. The business of distraction is not just recently lucrative either: I suspect the Greek playwrights, Shakespeare, and the great novelists all filled and monetized a social yearning for distraction; Hollywood and the rest of the modern entertainment industry has been minting money from it for years. And if that’s a bad thing—nuance is not dead here—it’s not the fault of companies, technologies, or franchises. It’s our fault, for so willingly and easily distracting ourselves. All the time.

Taking in a little news helps keep us informed about our world. Obsessively watching cable news networks creates an echo chamber of too-strident opinions that leaves out ears ringing and our minds thinking of nothing else. Who doesn’t know folks who will divert any conversation into politics within five minutes of saying hello? The same is true of celebrity gossip. The financial press. Food!—the quasi-religious obsession of millions of paleos, primals, vegans, locavores, Monsanto-haters, fair-traders…There can be too much of a good thing, and we all go there. Sometimes our obsessions qualify us as quirky, sometimes as self-righteous pricks. Either way, obsessions need fuel like fire, and we choose what we feed ourselves. And not only do we choose what to feed on—we choose to feed in the first place. Nobody ever said that was required.

Constantly eating more food than we need leads to adverse systemic consequences for our bodies. Why should it not also be true of our minds? What would we be like if we gave ourselves time—quiet time—to digest what we put in our minds? Would we be a community of people who actually think for ourselves about important issues, instead of mouthpieces for our favorite media outlets? Would we shine with a light of true individuality, rather than with the dull reflection of groupthink emanating from our Facebook feeds?  Would we be comfortable voicing the produce of our minds in deep conversation, instead of referencing someone else, experts who, in all reality, have no more innate intelligence or ability than we do? Are we consuming the mental equivalent of huge amounts of empty calories, and suffering mental obesity as a result? Could we not rather consume small quantities of nutritious material and allow ourselves to truly absorb its goodness?

Silence is where we digest. Where we allow our mental filters to clear the detritus of our chaotic lives from the flow of our consciousness. It’s a detox, a cleansing, a freeing.  It’s where the rust falls off our souls and the scales fall from our eyes, and where we are finally able to see the world for ourselves and, more importantly, where we can see ourselves for ourselves. In the midst of a silent moment, when no one else has our ear or attention, we can finally listen to our own voice and find out what we actually think and who we actually are.  We find answers to questions about ourselves and discover which questions about the world are truly important to us. What is golden stays with us after the silence has polished away all the dross.

But this is all obvious. Monks of every religion have for millennia taken vows of silence to connect to themselves and something higher. Artists, authors and poets retreat to the mountains or the beaches or Venice—anywhere but their normal here—to free their hands from the quotidian grasping so that they can instead reach inside themselves and unearth that which is truly extraordinary. Maybe the best of them produce something of great worth to others. But all of them produce that which is of great worth to themselves. And what gives value to any of it? What gives value to anything? Scarcity—that great economic force that makes air free and diamond dear. So few people find their own voice, the true expression of who they are. But only we can find ourselves, and there is only one of us. No one else can sell us ourselves or mass produce our souls. To ourselves, we are the scarcest of resources the universe has ever known.

Yesterday I walked, aimlessly, through the river parklands in Perth, Australia; today, I set out to find some peace near LAX while laid over on my way home. I find walking to be my quickest way to silence the mind. It’s meditative: one foot, next foot, straight line, breathe in, breathe out. It takes me far from where I was, surrounds me with novelty. If it doesn’t require much thought—the danger of being hit by a car is low, I’m not late for anything, I’m not likely to be mugged—then my mind is free to wander, shake off its stiffness, stretch out. Silence outside promotes silence inside: the Kookaburra calls of the Perth parklands are better that the searing, stinking fumes of the LAX arrivals level. But it’s the act, the motion, that leads to transcendence. History is full of pilgrimages, Caminos de Santiago, that lose their power if motors are involved. There is no rhythm in the seat of a car: the crankshaft converts the cadence of the  combustion to smooth rotary motion. Airplane jets have no rhythm to begin with. Physically nothing is different than sitting at home. But walking, perambulation, keeps the mind alert and clear at the same time. Second best is the rhythmic swaying of horseback: if they were so inclined, the solitary cowboys of the West must have been the most contemplative of men. Is it any wonder that King David, a man after God’s own heart, was found among the lonely shepherds of Israel? The true value in a pilgrimage is, cliché, in the journey rather than the destination. I don’t know much about the Muslim hajj, but I hope it provides their faithful more peaceful contemplation than the pictures suggest.

We take moments of silence to remember those who have given their all in sacrifice to a higher purpose—defending the cause of freedom, spreading hope to a dying world—and in that silence we find remembrance and understanding. But when we can, we should go beyond dipping our toes in those clear, bracing waters; we should wade in, surrounding ourselves in silence, dive deep, hold our breaths, and, gasping, throw ourselves back on the shores of daily life with the peace that we found still dripping from us. We should give big wet hugs to the people we meet there. And when we’re comfortable enough in our own skins, we should invite those we love to join us…because peaceful silence, together, can be the conditioning oil to repair the dry, cracked leather of our relationships. And if all the world joined us, what better people we might be; what a multitude of hurts would be healed; and how much more peace would find its welcome in the world?

So find your silence. You need it. And the world needs you to find it. Whatever your place, whatever you have to give to the world, do this first: let silent contemplation be your offering.

Jailbreak Philosophy

Trends come and go, and often we don’t realize that we are in the midst of them until they are nearly over. In Barnes and Noble the other day, I saw a new book about the Beanie Baby craze of the late 90’s. Now that was a disaster if you happened to buy into the idea that the $5 stuffed animals were a durable store of value. I myself participated in a similar bubble written about recently by the Economist: the baseball-card wave of the 80’s. I apparently still haven’t given up on those actually being worth something someday, because I haven’t unloaded them yet.

Also in Barnes and Noble, browsing through the cookbooks, I found many books touting the benefits of diets that consist of “real food”—or “food”, as I like to call it. I agree wholeheartedly with the conclusions of the “real food” movement, insofar as the health benefits of eating properly are concerned.  (Another piece by the Economist, however, has disputed the benefits of organic, local, and fair trade—interesting, but beside the point here.)  But the exhortation to eat a healthy diet is nothing new…it’s just been newly raised nearly to the level of religion among the newest wave of food-focused advocacy.  Well, if it works then everyone will be better off for being more health-conscious, though we will all have to admit that it was an evangelical zeal, rather than any particular scientific enlightenment, that brought about the desired result.

Well, I am here to say that we need to spark an evangelical movement of our own…one focused on feeding our minds real food, and not the junk of our Internet age.  Billions of people with access to the web send out a constant stream of Tweets, posts, snaps, and selfies that is easy to consume, easy to identify with, always present, and absolutely devoid of any nutritive value to our minds. And the Internet is a business, optimized to gather eyeballs and monetize clicks. That is why, at the bottom of serious news articles in big-name publications, you’ll find “Sponsored Content” with such mind-healthy offerings as “10 Shocking Celebrity Photos You Never Saw Coming!” or “You’ll Never Believe What This Mom Found In Her Underwear Drawer!”

The Internet is awash with such flotsam, and it is the intellectual equivalent of Pixie Stix and cotton candy. It is everywhere: your Facebook feed, your Twitter feed, the website where you look up your recipes…don’t get me started about weather.com!  Browsing the web is like being followed around by a crazed robotic vending machine screaming at you to eat its chips and cookies for free, all day and all night.  And they really will be the best, most interesting cookies you’ve ever had: you won’t even believe how amazing the cookies are today!  And before long you say “What the heck…” and give in, just this once—really, just this once…

Free as in money is all well and good, but your stalker vending machine is smearing on you layers of puffy, fatty tissue with each new cookie you take from it.  And the same thing is happening to your mind, that glorious duality of matter and spirit responsible for making you you, each time you spend 5 minutes reading the junk. And you know what it is: BuzzFeed; ViralNova;  any Facebook-driven quiz asking “Which Ninja Turtle are you?”, “What is your perfect city?”, or “How long would you survive as a molerat?”  You click the link; you invest the time to read the article or take the quiz; and in return, you get another metaphorical layer of greasy white fat injected into where your gray matter should be.  Because that stuff doesn’t actually educate you, even if it screams that it’s full of stuff you need to know.

Think about the quizzes: anyone can write a quiz that ignores your inputs and gives you random results.  If the random result you get is stupid and irrelevant, you leave (but not before spending time on the site and looking at—and heaven forbid, clicking—on the ads).  If it’s even halfway relevant, you perhaps share your result on Facebook…and lots more people may decide to take the quiz.  In the meantime, the people running the website are laughing hysterically as they watch the number of visitors to their site grow ever larger, and the advertising money they’re earning pile in, all for the simple investment of writing a silly little quiz and making up some bogus answers to go along with it.  They got paid, you got nothing.

The same is true of the articles written with the sole purpose of getting you to the website.  BuzzFeed and ViralNova are great at this.  Consider this enchanting recent headline: “10 Signs He’s Cheating on You (#7 is so obvious it hurts!)”.  What does this headline say to you?  It says—by offering a numbered list—that there is a scientific or mathematical method of laying bare his cheating heart.  It also says that at least one of these signs is so obvious.  And what are you thinking?  “Well geez, I don’t know of any obvious signs that my husband is cheating on me.  I must be stupid!  I’d better read up on this so that I don’t end up being some dumb broad just being taken for a ride…And to think, just 30 seconds ago I was so convinced that our marriage was brilliant…”  And that, dear readers, is how brains go down the toilet thanks to our friends on the Internet.  My favorite so far has to be the article 7 Online Personality Quizzes That Are Actually Worth Taking.  Take that pill and see just how far down the rabbit hole goes…

It’s all a business, and the product is you.  Internet writers compete with one another through such sensationalism to generate “page views” of their articles.  The websites “monetize” your “eyeballs” by showing you ads.  So the more people they can get through their website, the better…you don’t even have to read the article.  They just need you to click on the Headline That Says Something Happened That You’ll Never Believe!

So how much do they get paid?  It all depends upon the demographic of the readership, the placement of the ad, the topic…but in general, a few dollars per thousand page views.  So when you read an article on one of these sites, they get a few fractions of a penny—per ad.  But what if you share the article on Facebook and five of your friends read it…and then share it…and the number of readers grows exponentially?  So does the revenue.  So if a piece of the web goes “viral” by reaching, say, 10 million viewers, and has a couple ads embedded in it…the owners of the website will have collected something like $100,000 in ad revenue.  See why getting people to the article is so important…and lucrative?  The sites are like fishermen collecting up fish in dragnets—the more the better—and for good reason this kind of content is called “clickbait”.  The title just has to be enticing enough to get YOU to click on it, and whatever is there has to be just good enough that a small fraction of the readers will share it on their social networks.  And bingo, dollar bonanza!

But these people are all peddling shoddy products to convert your time into their profit.  You should eat anything…Twinkies, pink slime, MSG-flavored Oreos deep fried in artificial food colorings…before you put BuzzFeed in your brain.

What should you do instead?  Well, how do you avoid eating junk food?  You start by getting rid of all the junk food you have in your house.  You can do this for Internet junk too.  Install the AdBlock extension for your browser (Chrome, Safari, Firefox, Opera), make sure that the settings ensure that ALL ads are blocked, and enjoy browsing the Internet free of most of the ads screaming at you to EAT MORE COOKIES!  If you don’t you can at least avoid like the plague any links provided by services like Outbrain or Taboola, which are both very large companies dedicated to putting Internet junk food in front of your eyes.  It’s not always obvious, but you should be able to tell these links by a little bit of fine print:



Run away!  It’s not worth it.  You do not need to know who the YouTube star is or what her house looks like; the Internet also isn’t going to reveal that Paul Allen found the Lost City of Atlantis.

After getting rid of all the junk food around you, the next thing to do is start EATING REAL FOOD!  For our brains, that means things written or produced to inform, inspire, expand and educate.  I2E2.  What do you ACTUALLY care about?  (No, you do not actually care about an unnamed 24-year-old YouTube star.)  Read about it on Wikipedia.  Read long-form literature that actually requires concentration, attention, and dedication, and you’ll not only learn something but improve your own character while you’re at it.  (Wondering where to start?  Join me in the Laureates Project!)  Have an academic interest?  Take a course on EdX or Coursera or watch some videos at Khan Academy.

Free your mind from the crushing grip of the Internet junk machine that just wants to squeeze pennies out of your brain.  We will only reach real Jailbreak when we have learned to filter and reject noise both harmless and harmful, and have provided ourselves the peace and clarity needed to focus on our truly significant passions.

Jailbreak Philosophy

Look around you.  What do you see?

The meaning of the shapes around you does not come from them to you, an arrow shot from a quiver full of significance.  The painting on the wall of my living room means very little to me.  It was left behind by my landlord; I don’t know how he got it; it’s a print of a scene by Charles Rennie Mackintosh, about whom I know nothing. Maybe less than nothing.  Other than filling up an otherwise blank space, it serves no function.  It does not speak to me.

No, meaning is a boomerang that starts with you, extends to your surroundings, and curves back to meet you where you are.  There’s an old textbook supine on an end table under the painting.  It looks like it belongs in a big beautiful library where everyone admires but no one reads.  I referenced that book a million times in graduate school.  I spent hours absorbing knowledge from it, traveled with it, lived with it.  It reminds me of a significant time in my life.  I give it meaning, which it reflects back to me.

This is not just so much solipsistic drivel, but an admission that the objective nature of our surroundings contributes minimally to our subjective experience.  One man perhaps, surrounded by a great crowd of critics, will fall into a depressive self-criticism and lose his will.  Another in the same conditions will be a bull prodded by a thousand rapiers to enraged action.  Yet another will hear and disregard, carrying on in peace.  Some may never hear at all, being congenitally out of tune with criticism.

As children, we learn how to relate to our surroundings, guided by parents or friends or blind circumstance.  We grow and learn and adapt and experiment.  The stakes grow greater as we get older, and become responsible for our own lives and maybe for the lives of others.  And at some point, the stakes grow too great—the possible consequences of our thoughts and actions too significant—and we stop.  Stop growing, learning, adapting.  Except when forced by circumstances, we choose to stay put in the mental depot, sit on a bench and watch the trains go by, maybe comfortable, maybe envious of those still traveling, but making silent and private justifications for why we can’t hit the rails one more time.  We believe that things in life work, well enough, and we can only make them worse by making changes.

And so we wake in the morning when we must, dress as those around us will expect, eat what we are accustomed to eating, go to work and perform the motions we are expected and rewarded to perform, spend time with family or friends doing and talking about customary things…and at the end of it all, allow what few hours are left to pass in mostly thoughtless entertainment.

That’s never been me.  I’m a naturally inquisitive and curious person.  Recently, though, I have felt the cords of convention pulling at me and stirring within me the feeling that I’m losing the spark of initiative that has always made life interesting.  I’m 32, I’m an engineer, I work at a large engineering company.  I read much less than I used to.  The world around me is not as interesting as it once was.  My sense of humor has become less creative and more sarcastic with time.  My average TV consumption has increased many times over since my college days.  I didn’t plan or work toward any of that. It’s just something that happened. But did I want it to happen? Not so much.

Now, I don’t know anything about much of what I just said.  I’m a physicist, not a psychologist, philosopher, or poet.  But I do know that my mind and life can be more expansive than they are.  In my relatively new adulthood, there need not be an end to the joys of discovery.  Perhaps I have less time in which to find things out—when I’m not finding things out in my job, that is—but what do I do in the time that I do have?

The mind can ossify with time, or it can become more flexible and supple.

Our selves and our lives can be jails whose jail-yards we wander during life sentences; or they can be gardens blooming with ideas and fascinations.  I, and too many people that I know, have a jail-yard mentality, and we have to break out.  Break out, and get back to the garden.  I am plotting my jailbreak. Maybe you need to plot yours?

Jailbreak Philosophy